Family Matters

© Original content written by James R. Carlson

She Said Yes

I have been working on relationships lately. Please forgive my absence in blogging. I’ve not stopped my work in presenting viewpoints from a Christian Conservative perspective. I’ve put a pause in the work of writing to build new family ties.

In January this year I met a new girlfriend, Nancy, on the website We spoke via the website, text, and phone for a month before meeting. I live in El Paso, Texas and she lives in Tucson, Arizona. I drove to Tucson for our first date on 17 February this year; this was our Valentine’s date. We continued to date for four months and had a wonderful time.

Nancy suggested that since we are both Christian, we begin working together on a devotional for dating couples. She gave me four books to look through online and I chose one of them; it was a nine-week course where we were led to grow closer to God and then with each other. We agreed that after we finished the devotional, we would make a decision about our relationship.

On 16 June, we finished our devotional and I proposed to her, to which she said yes. After 4 months of dating, we got engaged. After 3 months of our engagement, we’ll get married. We are busy planning our wedding, which puts other work on the back burner. We are also going through another devotional for engaged couples. It is challenging but worth the effort and I highly recommend you do this too.

In January this year, I also reconnected with a cousin of mine whom I had not seen in decades. We had a great conversation and said it would be good to put together a family reunion. We used to have them in the 1980s and 1990s but have not had one in 20 years. We decided to put one together, even before I met Nancy, and we just finished with our reunion in Austin, Texas on 14 July 2018.

We had a good turnout but numbers are not the issue. Meeting family members whom we haven’t seen in years is good for the soul. It helps everyone to find their place in a community and family is the first community we belong to. There are other groups we associate with and they give us meaning and purpose for our lives. As humans we need our society to help us gain an identity and purpose.

So please forgive the absence in writing. I will be working to finish our wedding and honeymoon plans and then get back to life and living. I’m enjoying making new and reconnecting with old relationships. That is the stuff of life and I encourage you to live on.